1 Million for Work Flexibility and FlexJobs hosted an important event recently: the online premiere of a documentary called Having It All, which follows three women for two years as they try to start and grow their families, all while juggle professional careers. Like so many parents, these women were figuring it out as they go, and we are proud of the discussion this important film raised.

Our online premiere and panel discussion was covered in articles including:

If you missed these events, you can still participate. We invite you to view the full post-film panel discussion about Having It All here, and you can rent or purchase the documentary through any of the following sources:

But what we were most interested in was to hear from our audience—from people just like the women featured in the documentary. Working parents who are trying, every day, to do it all and have it all. Caregivers seeking to find a better balance for themselves, given their responsibilities. People with young children, older children, adult children, and no children—we heard from everyone.

And that’s what we want to share with you today. Here are three big takeaways shared with us by people who attended our panel discussion on “Having It All.”

We are not alone.

“Great reminder that there are others out there who are going through similar struggles. The movie was very well-done and portrayed realities.”
-Annalee L.

“This event was beneficial to me as I work full-time away from home and have two young kids in daycare so I can relate. What ‘having it all’ looks like varies for everyone. There are so many factors that go into the equation.”
-Courtney M.

Reality doesn’t always have a happy ending.

“It was sad that two couples divorced. This made the outcome of first time parenting seem very negative.”
-Mary D.

“I enjoyed the discussion. It made me want more. It made me feel as if I were not alone. I’ve been headstrong at the pursuit of having it all. But 6-8 years into trying to be a successful career woman, with two kids, a great marriage, etc. I’m realizing that having it all and being happy doesn’t really exist. It’s a fantasy similar to Cinderella and Prince Charming who fall in love and live happily every after.”
-Mia M.

We need systemic, organizational changes that better support working parents and all professionals.

“What is needed to have it all: equal parenting, flexible employer, career that can afford daycare costs. Because you can have it all if you have these things. But it is rare you do have all of these things.”
-Heather F.

“I encourage my high school/college age children to research and pursue jobs that will offer that flexibility, because even though they aren’t thinking of it now, they all will be faced with these decisions and having this knowledge now can only help them when they do start their families.”
-Cathy M.

Surrounding the event, there was also a lively discussion on Twitter, using #HavingItAllFilm, which you can see here:

#havingitallfilm Tweets

We want to know what YOUR big takeaway from the discussion surrounding Having It All is. Leave a comment and let us know how you feel about having it all—is it possible? What does it look like to you? Share your ideas with us below!